Y’all… you picked each other. You love doing life together. And then someone asks which sofa you want, and suddenly you’re wondering if you’ve ever agreed on anything. 😂

One of you is saving warm, layered, collected rooms. The other is saving quieter, simpler spaces. Both of you have ideas. Both of you are excited.

And both of you are looking at the same living room.

Somehow, agreeing on a coffee table doesn’t make it into the wedding-planning conversations!

If this sounds familiar, you are so not alone.

Different taste isn’t a problem with your relationship.

After designing a lot of houses, I can tell you this: people bring different backgrounds, memories, and ideas of what “home” should feel like.

Maybe you grew up in a house full of color and family furniture. Maybe your partner feels most comfortable in a room with fewer things around. Neither person is wrong.

You’re just starting from different places.

The real test isn’t whether your inspiration photos match. It’s whether you can create a home where BOTH of you feel comfortable, happy, and represented.

And believe me, that might take a little work. But it’s absolutely possible.

Nobody has to win the living room.

I think this is where decorating together can get tricky. It starts to feel like there are only two choices: your style or theirs.

But a shared home doesn’t mean one person gets every decision or that you settle on things neither of you really loves.

It also doesn’t mean every piece has to be both people’s absolute favorite. We don’t need a household vote on every throw pillow. 😂

You just want to look around and both feel like you belong there.

I think about decisions we’ve made in our own home, too. When Joe and I moved to Indiana and bought our house, we knew we eventually wanted to redo the kitchen.

But have you SEEN what kitchen renovations cost?!

So we kept the cabinets, cleaned them up, and painted them a fun color while we saved for the kitchen we really wanted. We gave the space a whole new personality without doing everything at once and we didn’t regret waiting.

That wasn’t about having a perfect house right away. It was about figuring out what worked for us in that season.

And I think that’s such a helpful place to start when you’re making decisions together: What do we need now? What matters most to each of us? What can we make work while we figure out the rest?

Before you say no to the chair, ask why they love it.

This sounds simple, but it can change the whole conversation.

Is it the shape? The color? Does it remind them of somewhere they felt at home? Is that chair really about the chair or having somewhere comfortable to land after a long day?

Sometimes one person is talking about how a room looks, and the other is talking about how they want to live in it.

One of you wants cozy. The other wants calm.

Good news: those things can absolutely happen in the same room!

A colorful home can feel peaceful. A room with vintage furniture can feel fresh. Comfortable doesn’t have to mean giving up on beautiful.

So instead of stopping at “I don’t like that,” try asking:

“What do you love about it?”

And then:

“What do we BOTH want this room to feel like?”

That gives you somewhere to go besides sending each other more links and hoping one of them magically settles the conversation.

There may be an option neither of you has thought of yet.

Imagine one of you keeps saving comfortable sofas with simple lines. The other keeps saving patterned vintage accent chairs with lots of personality.

You don’t have to pick one folder and ignore the other.

Start with a comfortable sofa in a solid fabric you both like. Bring in the patterned chairs. Pull a color from that fabric into a pillow or another detail nearby, and suddenly the pieces feel connected.

The sofa gives you somewhere to settle in. The chairs bring the character. Both preferences have a place.

Or maybe there’s a meaningful piece one person loves, but the finish doesn’t feel right to the other. Before deciding it can’t stay, look at what a different finish or fabric could do.

Sometimes the answer isn’t “keep it exactly like this” or “get rid of it.” There’s another possibility in between.

And you don’t have to figure out the whole house this weekend. Start with one room. The dining room will still be there next Tuesday. I promise. 😂

This is where a little help in the middle can be so good.

One of my favorite parts of design is listening to different points of view and helping people see how they can work together.

Not picking a side. Not walking in and making your house look like mine.

Listening to what each person loves and bringing ideas that connect those things.

A design professional can help you see possibilities beyond the two options you’ve been going back and forth on. Maybe it’s a sofa with the comfort one person wants and the cleaner lines the other loves. Maybe it’s finding a place for a sentimental piece. Maybe you agree on more than you realized, but you need help turning it into a plan.

That’s what we want to help you do at MegMade.

Your home should reflect the people who live there, their favorite things, and the way their family actually lives. Our job is to bring that together, not take it over.

You picked each other. The sofa is apparently a separate negotiation. But you don’t have to figure it out alone. 🤍

Let’s make it feel like home for both of you.

Stay curious. Be kind to each other. Ask why a piece matters before deciding it doesn’t belong.

You don’t need identical taste to create a home you both love.

And if you’ve been staring at two very different inspiration folders, we’d love to help you find a direction you’re both excited about.

Sign up for our complimentary design service in November and receive a $500 gift card.

We’ll help you connect your styles and make a plan for a home that feels like BOTH of you.

Xoxo,

Meg